14 weeks 5 days pregnant
On Thursday January 8th, had our appointment with our regular OB/GYN. I was really happy to meet with him because I not only trust his skill as a doctor, but I really trust him as a person. He cut to the chase with us in our appointment and told us that he knew of people carrying babies with Trisomy 13 to term, but he had never personally been down that road with a patient. He told us that he had the OR ready for the next day should I decide to terminate the pregnancy...we told him that we were not going to consider that and he respected our wishes.
While he respected our decision, he did feel the need to lay out all of the details for us...things we would have to think about along the way, decisions we would have to make, and the fact that I would continue to look pregnant and that everything would look fine from the outside. Our heads were spinning, but we appreciated how honest he was with us.
He did tell us that our "fetus was incompatible with life"...again, medical terminology that didn't sit well with me: 1. Our "fetus" was a BOY! and 2. I had just seen an ultrasound the week before where our boy's heart was beating very strong and he was moving his arms and legs. How could he be "incompatible with life"?! He was still alive and well inside of me...only God can determine compatibility with life. I realize that these "terms" are medical terms and that I shouldn't take offense to my doctor using them...but I will be sure to tell him our boy's name next time I see him!